Archive for July, 2014


1. Trust, help each other, be good and stay positive.
2. Please your spouse and make him/her feel special always.
3. Be humorous, playful, helpful, respectful and entertaining.
4. Never bring your past mistakes in your today.
5. Encourage and give hope to your spouse.
6. Do not compare each other even for tiny things.
7. Surprise your spouse with something new.
8. Spent time as much as you can.
9. Get ready for your spouse as they want you to get ready and look beautiful always.
10. Listen carefully and obey sincerely.
11. Avoid fighting, ignoring, lying, doubting, misbehaving and getting angry.
12. Be open and discuss your problems/ worries to your spouse.
13. If one of you is angry, the other should be quiet.
14. Don’t argue. Simply say ‘Sorry’ whether it’s your mistake or not.
15. Always make Du’a to make your marriage successful and your relationship/ bond strong.
16. Always be thankful to your spouse.
17. Say ‘I love you’ to your spouse.
18. Understand each other.
19. Make eye contact while speaking.
20. Eat together, be together and pray together.

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RETURN BACK TO YOUR RELIGION

Posted: July 26, 2014 in Uncategorized

By Shaykh Muhammad b. ‘Abdil Wahhaab al Banna
Shaykh Muhammad b. ‘Abdil Wahhab al Banna gives some beautiful naseehah to the Muslims regarding the importance of returning back to the true religion of Allaah in order for the affairs of the Muslims to be rectified; a great reminder especially in light of current affairs and the propagation of takfīrī groups such as ISIS. This is followed by a highly beneficial Q&A session with the Shaykh (rahimahullaah) wherein he praises our noble Shaykh Rabī b. Hādī al Madkhalī (hafidhahullāh) with regards to his knowledge of the men of this time.

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The Shaykh started by saying that Allāh (subhānahu wa ta’āla) has promised in the Qur’ān that He will not give the disbelievers victory over the Muslims, and He will not let the disbelievers have victory over the believers and this is an established fact; and a promise of Allāh (tabāraka wa ta’āla) and He does not break His promise; that He has established the fact that He will give the believers Nusrah, a clear victory over the disbelievers, and that that might, al-‘Izzah is for Allāh and for the Messenger and for the believers, and that Allāh does not break His promise; that the circumstances that we are going through now shows that the Muslims, they are other than how they are supposed to be, and that they are going other than the way that fulfils the conditions of this promise.
So if this is the promise of Allāh, then a this does not go outside of two matters; and that is either the Muslims are truthful in the fact that they are believers, and therefore that Allaah (tabāraka wa ta’āla( has lied, he has broken His Promise, and High above and removed is He from that; or that the Muslims are in fact in a claim to Islām like the Jews and the Christians and their claim to belief; the Jews claim that they are believers of what Mūsa was upon, and the Christians claim to believe and be upon what ‘Īsa (‘alayhī salām) was upon. So the Muslims nowadays claim that they believe in Islām but are not practising upon anything that Muhammad (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam) was upon; so therefore it is not a fact that Allāh (tabāraka wa ta’āla) broke His Promise, but the fact that the Muslims claim to believe; that their practise of Islām is not correct, or is not authentic.
Shaykh Muhammad states, and this is affirmed by the statement of the Prophet (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam) when he described the position of this Ummah with regard to other nations, and it is the ḥadīth in which he says,
There will come a time when the nations will invite one another to you like diners invite one another to a plate’ and one of the companions asked ‘Is this because we are a small amount, O Messenger of Allāh?’ And the Messenger of Allāh said, ‘No, it is not that you are a small amount, you will be many, but you will be like the foam upon on the ocean, and Allāh (tabāraka wa ta’āla) will place wahn in your hearts’, and it was stated, ‘O Messenger of Allāh, what is this wahn?’ He said, ‘Wahn is love of dunya and hatred of death.’
Also the Shaykh said, Allāh has related to us the remedy, this illness, how to change this condition, and that is based upon the ḥadīth in which it is stated,
‘When you get involved in interest or usury based transactions, and you will become pleased with agriculture and you will follow the tails of the cows, and you leave Jihād, Allāh (tabārak wa ta’āla) will send upon you humiliation and he will not remove it from you until you return back to your dīn.’
So the situation, or the circumstance that we find ourselves in now, of being low and humiliation, and having no position whatsoever, it is a situation because we are not upon our dīn and we have to return back to the correct dīn, we must return back to the real dīn, applying it and believing in it and the like; we have differed like the Jews have differed and the Christians have differed, like the Prophet (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam) said,
The Jews have split into seventy-one groups and the Christians seventy-two, and my Ummah will split into seventy-three sects, all of them in the hell fire except one’, and he was questioned as to which one that was, and he said, ‘The Jamā’ah),the group, in one narration he said, ‘The one which is upon that which I am upon today, and my Companions.’
We must know exactly what the Prophet (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam) and the Companions were upon; and it is something that is upon us to ask for in every prayer, and that is praising Allāh (subhānahu wa ta’alā), making a covenant that we will only worship Allāh that we want Him to,
Guide us to the path of those who have been favoured’  [Sūrah Fātiḥah: 6]
And that is of course the path of the Prophet (‘alayhis salām) and the Companions. So we ask for guidance to the path of those whom Allāh has favoured and the verse that precedes it is to ‘Guide us to the Straight Path,’ Ṣirātul mustaqeem, the path of those who He has favoured and His blessings are upon. Ṣirātul mustaqeem, it has been said that it is the Qur’ān, the Straight Path, and it is based on the verse when Allāh (tabāraka wa ta’āla) mentions when the Jinns, they heard the Messenger of Allāh recite the Qur’ān, and they went back to their people warning that,
‘We have heard a Book that guides to the Straight Path.’ [Sūrah Jinn: 2]
So guidance to the straight path is taken from the Qur’ān, by listening to the Qur’an and by knowing the Qur’ān; this is the guide to the straight path. Also Allāh (subhānahu wa ta’āla) points out that the the Prophet (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam), ‘Guides to the Straight Path’ based on the verse of the Qur’ān in which he said,
                     ‘Verily you (O Muhammad) did not know what was the Book
                      nor what was ēmān, but then we guided you our light….
                      and verily you guide to a straight path,’ [Sūrah Ash-Shūrā: 52]
So this shows that that which guides to straight path is the Book of Allāh (tabāraka wa ta’āla) and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allāh (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam). Also what is a must along with the book of Allāh and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allāh (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam) is to follow the path of those whom Allāh has blessed or favoured, and who are those whom Allāh has blessed and favoured? They are the Companions of the Prophet (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam), the Anṣār and the Muhājirūn.
So our dīn is contained and confined to Qur’ān and the Sunnah and the way of the Ṣahābah and whoever deviates from this then he will not be from those who will be saved from the hellfire and this is based on the verse in the Qur’ān in which Allāh says,
                            ‘Whoever opposes the Messenger after the Truth
                             has been made clear, and follows a path other than
                             the path of the believers, we will leave him with
                             that which he has chosen and his final destination is hell,’ [Sūrah An-Nisā: 115] 
 
To the end of the verse.
Our dīn is preserved, Allāh (tabāraka wa ta’āla) has preserved the Qur’ān and He has preserved the Sunnah by selecting Scholars who are decisive in what is correct and what is incorrect or remove from that which is unauthentic of it, and has preserved the way of the understanding of the Companions and he has ordered us to return any difference that we may have, to return it back to Allāh and His Messenger. The dīn is contained in these sources, and preserved and so no one can do any action unless he has a ḥujjah, an evidence from the Book of Allāh and upon the Sunnah of the Messenger (sallallāhu ‘alayhī wa sallam), or from the statements of the Sahābah; so this is what our dīn is contained and preserved in.
The Shaykh said if we want he will stop speaking at this point because he can go into very great detail but in his estimation this is enough, and if we have questions then he can start taking questions and answer them inshā’Allāh.’
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The lecture was then concluded with a highly beneficial Q&A session on the issue of whether Saddām Hussain should be considered a disbeliever or not, and the positions of the Shaykh as well as other Mashāyikh of that period such as Shaykh Bin Bāz (rahimahullāh) concerning this issue. A question was also put to the Shakh regarding his position on the individual Mustafa al Adawi, to which the Shaykh responded:
‘He doesn’t know much of Mustafa al Adawi, and he said regarding the men who live in this time he will refer this to Shaykh Rabī’ someone who knows the men of this time and someone who will rule upon a person based upon what they have stated and what they have written and what has been recorded regarding them and he will look at that and he will give a proper ruling, he said that he believes that he will give a proper ruling regarding that person, so this should be referred back to Shaykh Rabī’ and he said he asks Allah to protect him and to bless him.’

Transcribed by Umm Yousufyaan, Zeenat b. Ahmed

1. Al-Annaanah:
The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).

2. Al-Mannaanah:
The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; “I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.

3. Al-Hannaanah:
The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.

4. Kay’atul-Qafaa:
The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).

5. Al-Haddaaqah:
The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).

6. Al-Barraaqah:
The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.

7. Al-Shaddaaqah:
The woman who talks excessively.

Taken from the Book: ‘A Concise Manual of Marriage’ by Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen


1.  Treating the Wife in a Kind and Good Manner

  • The husband should accompany the wife in a good way, keeping harm away from her, not delaying in fulfilling their rights, and demonstrating pleasure and happiness with her (or them, but in thise case, I’m going to use the singular “her”).
  • And treat them in a good and kind manner. al-Nisaa 19.
  • And they have the rights similar to those over them according to what is reasonable. al-Baqara 228.
  • The wife is not the only person within the household to beautify herself for her husband. Ibn Abbaas stated, “I love to beautify myself for the wife in the same way that I love for her to beautify herself for me because Allah has said, ‘And they have rights similar to those over them according to what is reasonable’”
  • The husband should be kind and gentle with her and not harm her. No matter what kinds of problems arises, whether it is her fault or his, he should treat her kindly and be reasonable.
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) alluded to this behaviour when he said, “A believing man should not hate a believing woman since if he dislikes one of her characters, he is pleased with another.” Muslim, 1469, Book on Virtues.
  • The husband should not hurt his wife with actions or speech.
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) was asked by one of the Companions, “What is the right of our wives upon us?” He replied, “it is that when you eat, you feed her; when you get clothing for yourself, you get clothing for her; do not strike the face; do not swear at her; and do not boycott her except in the house.” Abu Dawood, 2142, Book on Marriage.

2.  Teaching Her the Matters of the Religion and Supporting Her in Acts of Obedience to Allah

  • The husband should teach his wife if she is ignorant and reminds her if she forgets. He should support her and helps her remember what needs to be done. The most important is to maintain the proper belief in the oneness of Allah (tawheed) and the beliefs and practices of the early generations of Muslims.
  • “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones.” al-Tahreem 6.
  • Ibn Umar narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Man is responsible over his family and he will be asked about his responsibility.” Part of hadith in al-Bukhari, 5188, Book on Marriage.
  • The husband should also teach his wife good manners and characteristics, to protect her modesty, and feel honour with respect to her and when she follows through with these acts.

3.  Maintaining Her Chastity

  • Such as men, women also have natural desires  Men should comply with them so she will keep herself from doing anything forbidden. One of the acts of keeping her chastity is to abstain from sexual intercourse: “Those who take an oath not to have sexual intercourse with their wives must wait for four months, but if they return [during this period], then Allah is forgiving, merciful.” al-Baqarah 226.

4.  Financially Maintaining the Wife

  • Fiancially supporting her is a necessary right of the wife. It is also in accordance with food, clothing, and housing.
  • “The father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear.” al-Baqarah 233.
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Fear Allah with respect to women. You have taken them by the trust with Allah and have made their private parts permissible by the word of Allah… Their rights upon you are that you provide for them and clothe them according to what is right and customary.” Muslim, Sahih, 1218, Book on the Pilgrimage.
  • The husband is obligated to spend on his wife and children for what is sufficient. This also indicated that the wife may take from her husband’s wealth if he refuses to give her what she needs, even if she does it without his knowledge as long as it is a reasonable amount.
  • The wife should not ask for numerous requests. She should be satisfied and happy with what her husband is giving her.
  • “The first thing that destroyed the Tribes of Israel is when the wife of a poor person would burden him for clothing or fashion like the way the wife of a rich man would burden him.” ibn Khuzaimah in al-Tauheed, 208.

It was brought up during the halaqa as, “Is it true that the Qur’an states that it is okay to beat your wife?”

No, it is not alright to beat your wife.

This is what Surah al-Nisaa ayah 34 says, which is ALWAYS taken out of context: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given them one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, do not seek against them means (of annoyance):  for Allah is Most High, Great (above you all).”

Firstly, “men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given them one more strength than the other.” Specifically, men had to pull their weight in the time of the Prophet (ﷺ) because many of them were farmers, tradesmen, fishermen, etc. Just like back in the Biblical times. So yes, they were indeed stronger than women. Also, men ARE our protectors and they ARE the ones who usually have the job to support the families.

Secondly, “admonish them first”. They are allowed to verbally excuse us from our presence. This is in no way “beating” us. And it is stated that they (the men) should not be verbally abuse us. This does not mean that the husband will not be harsh or aggressive with words, but they should watch how they handle the situation.

Thirdly, “refuse to share the bed.” The husband has a right to either a.) leave the bed and sleep elsewhere in the house hold, b.) refuse to have sexual intercourse with her, c.) to keep his distance in bed, or d.) have his wife sleep elsewhere in the household.

Fourth, “beat them lightly.” Lightly is the key word here. A brother had a question about the beating the wife bit, and it is suggested that men can tap their wives with a miswaak. In other cases, he can tap her hand, her shoulder, her back (such as you would “strike” a child when they grabbed that cookie out of the jar that you didn’t want them to have).  In no way does it say, “take up a fist and beat your women” or anything of the sort.

Allahu A’lam.

May Allah make the men pious and grateful husbands.

[Taken from: Pearls of Wisdom]